So, you are now single, and you are thinking about dipping your toes into the Internet dating pool; but first you would like a few tips and pointers on Internet dating for newbies.
Well, if there were ever a situation in which the saying "Caveat Emptor," or "Let the buyer beware," was ever more appropriate, Internet dating for newbies is that situation.
Why? Because the Internet is a place where people are not always who they present themselves to be. And so common sense states that you should tread carefully. You know what they say, "Better safe than sorry." And that goes for men as well as women.
With that being said, the first thing you need to know is that all dating sites are not created equal. And in fact, their diversity and uniqueness is usually one of their key selling points.
If you have specific interests, or a specific lifestyle, a little bit of research can lead you to a site--or sites--which specialize in exactly what it is that you are looking for; and that goes for anything from a specific religion, to a specific age range, to a specific ethnicity, or even to a specific fetish. Imagine Baskin-Robbins 31 flavors to the tenth power; now apply that to relationships, and that is the virtual world of Internet dating.
So, what have you learned thus far? If nothing else, you've learned that the online dating world is virtually a world without limits or limitations. And to a large degree, that can actually be a problem. And here's why.
Have you ever been unsure as to exactly what type of bread you wanted, and then found yourself standing in the bread aisle not being able to make up your mind? And then, even when you did finally make a choice, you found your self standing at the checkout counter, wondering if you chose the correct bread for your taste and for your needs?
Knowing exactly what you want is all important when it comes to not wasting time in the bread aisle--or on Internet dating--as the choices can overwhelm you and cause you to waste a whole lot of time and energy. Also, having all those choices can be such a heady rush, that with no clear agenda, you risk falling in love with the process: which is how serial daters--the bane of all sincere people's Internet dating existence--are created.
So, here is my advice. Do a little soul searching first. Determine exactly what it is that you are really looking for in a relationship. Find one site which suits your fancy. Write a short and honest profile. Exchange a few emails with a few people. Do not be too embarrassed to vet them using any investigative entity you feel necessary. Have at least one phone call after the email exchange. And if the two of you are still interested in each other, have a day time face to face in a crowded public place, which lasts for no more than one or two hours initially; and state those time constraints right up front. It's less anxiety that way.
At that point, you are in the real world, and what ever happens after that is up to you.