When it comes to dating most of us are guilty of settling for someone just because we are lonely and tired of stuffing our faces with cookie dough whilst sobbing to our fifth romantic comedy of the day. We our blinded by our fear of living a lonely life (and yes I realize that part of that sentence is a Lumineers lyric). So instead of making a hasty decision solely based on how good it feels to get attention from the opposite sex, ask yourself if this guy has boyfriend potential or not.
Here are some questions to keep in mind:
1. Is he interested in what I'm trying to accomplish?Whether it is a job oriented goal or a talent that you want to show to the world, your significant other should want to support you. Does he get excited for you? Does he push you when you are not feeling motivated? If not, then that is definitely something to take into account.
2. Is he tidy or a slob?
This is the 21st century. No woman should be expected to do all of the cleaning. If he is the type to throw his dirty clothes everywhere and avoid washing dishes like the plague, you may just want to keep him in the friend zone. Best thing to do is check out his room and car to see how well he keeps it, or even discreetly or jokingly ask his friends how clean he is (odds are if you just started hanging out, he is going to make sure everything is nice before you come over).
3. Does he have any goals or aspirations?
You certainly don't want to be stuck with a man that has no intentions of making any plans to better his self. While it is a good thing to be in the moment, but it is also good to at least have an idea of what you want to accomplish or try to figure out whom you are.
4. Does he make me happy?
Yes, I know that couples argue and that is totally normal, however if it is constant and of course violent in any way then it is definitely a no-go. If that isn’t the case, then think about this: Do you get butterflies when you get a text or call from him? Does he make you laugh so hard that you're afraid of eating around him because of the possibility of spitting your food across the table? Or maybe when one of the countless lovey-dovey songs starts playing on the radio you can't stop smiling and thinking about him.
5. Do I trust him?
This is the most important question to ask. Without trust, the relationship will come to a crashing halt from anywhere between a couple weeks to a few years down the road. Is he the type of person who keeps secrets? Do you tend to catch him in a lie?
Figuring out if your guy is boyfriend potential or not is tricky, but if you are honest with yourself about these questions, then you might come to a decision quicker than you think.